Wednesday, June 10, 2009

What Do You Say to Fate?

Yesterday was my dad's 96th birthday. and my oldest sister Ruth is in Guymon visiting for the occasion and the week. Yesterday afternoon she called from the hosptial to let me know that just before lunch, Daddy collapsed. The EMTs said that in the ambulance he was talking, but they couldn't understand how that was possible because they couldn't get any vital signs. This was verified by doctors in the ER who experienced the same and kept trying different machines, because the machines were saying he was dead; and he was saying "Let me sit up." One of my friends commented, "If that isn't good old Oklahoma sticktoitivness I don't know what is." He's always been a tenacious over-achiever.

The doctors think it was a pulmonary embolism, but they still don't know for sure. That's how they're treating it.

My sister Jo and her husband Mike were on their way back to Guymon from a wedding in Arkansas, and got delayed in Oklahoma City with some RV problem. All very frustrating and they were afraid Dad would pass before they got a chance to say good-bye.

The doctors decided to heli-port him to Oklahoma City because they don't have the proper facilities in Guymon. (According to Jo, the Guymon hospital doesn't have the proper facilities to take care of the family pet.) So the fact that Jo and Mike got stuck there and were able to be at the hospital waiting for him is pretty amazing as Universal alignment goes.

I talked to Jo in OKC this morning, and our dad's stable, but shutting down. He has not regained consciousness since he collapsed yesterday, but there does seem to be a certain awareness and response when she tells him things.

He is 96 afterall. He's had not only a long life, but a rich and mostly happy one. We've been preparing for this time for awhile. But how do you prepare for it? I have read that psychologically we view our parents as God because they have been there through our personal eternity. How do I prepare for God to die?

Wednesday, May 06, 2009

Boycott Tuesday Morning

The Tuesday Morning website touts itself as follows:

Tuesday Morning is a retailer specializing in upscale closeout merchandise, with more than 800 stores across the United States. Our successful concept was founded on a unique philosophy: sell first-quality, famous designer and name-brand merchandise at extraordinarily discounted prices on an event basis.

I would characterize them as follows:

Tuesday Morning is a retailer specializing in the worst customer service set-up ever encountered in the Northern Hemisphere. They are widely known for mistreating their employees and store managers. [If you wish to lend credibility to this statement, simply Google "Boycott Tuesday Morning", "Tuesday Morning horror stories", and look for class action lawsuits.]

In the past Tuesday Morning was a company I viewed pleasantly, if with detachment. As you may have noted, I now regard them at best as the callously unhelpful. This change in my attitude began as a simple quest: I wanted off their flyer list.

I called the toll-free number on the flyer, and it only provided store locator information. I went to their website and found the "unsubscribe" area. I had to fill out a lengthy and tedious biographical form, including the customer number in 5-point font from the flyer. I clicked the Submit button with some relief.

Lo! and behold! I almost immediately received an email with the subject line Undeliverable: TM Opt Out from
postmaster@TuesdayMorning.com

I will paste in the rest of the techno-drivel that came with the message at the bottom of this post in case you're into the riveting details. Essentially the story it tells is that Tuesday Morning has programmed their unsubscribe option to boomerang so you CAN'T unsubscribe.

I poked around some more and found their corporate office number. (You can be sure there were no further toll-free numbers available after the store locator.) They were kind enough to provide a menu recording that offered a customer service extension. On my dime, of course, but I was making progress towards a human. I was ultimately on hold for 17 minutes before a SUB-human came on the line. She sounded pissed off to be there and like I probably interrupted her manicure. In theory she took my information. We'll see if I actually got removed from the mailing list.

Prior to this experience I held no animosity toward this company. After encountering their adherence to snail mail spam and un-green practices, and then personally experiencing and reading of their relentless cruelty in many quarters, I'm hoping they find their special place in hell where they get to hear their own recorded message repeated at 10-second intervals for the duration of eternity, "Your call is important to us—please hold."

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Techno drivel form Tuesday morning's "We will not let you unsubscribe" email system:

"postmaster@TuesdayMorning.com" postmaster@TuesdayMorning.com

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directmailsignup@tuesdaymorning.com
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Wednesday, April 29, 2009

At Our House We Have the Wisdom of Super Chicken

When you find yourself in danger,
When you're threatened by a stranger,
When it looks like you will take a lickin', (cluck, cluck, cluck, cluck)
There is someone waiting,
Who will hurry up and rescue you,
Just call—for Super Chicken! (cluck, awk!)

Fred, if you're afraid, you'll have to overlook it,
Besides you knew the job was dangerous when you took it! (cluck, awk!)

He will drink his super sauce
And throw the bad guys for a loss
And he will bring them in, alive and kickin' (cluck, cluck, cluck, cluck)
There is one thing you should learn
When there is no one else to turn to,
Call—for Super Chicken! (cluck, cluck, cluck, cluck)
Call—for Super Chicken! (cluck, awk!)

-The Super Chicken Theme Lyrics

Scott will be hitting the sexagenarian mark this August, and his job in the pharmaceutical industry is responsible and demanding. These and many other marks of adulthood and the biblical suggestion of "putting away childish things" have in no way diminished his enthusiasm for nor memories of Super Chicken, the short-lived 1967 cartoon series.

He can sing the entire theme song (with gusto); recount how he and one of his college friends had sweatshirts made with the hallmark backward F of Fred, Super Chicken's sidekick; and quote liberally from the 17 episodes.

And then launch into another account about the nun who made him divide using Roman numerals.

Welcome to life with Scott. I knew the job was dangerous when I took it.

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Best Advice Ever

Years ago when Carrie was a 'tween, we drove past a gas station with a sign prominently displayed in the window: "Help Wanted: Inquire Within". Carrie pointed out the Zen qualities of that statement, and I still use it as a reminder of unfailingly good advice to follow.

Monday, April 13, 2009

Dogs, Orthopedic Surgeons, and Aggression Towards Baseball Caps

Periodically when I'm running with my dog Jazz, about three-quarters of a mile from our house two dogs come running from the house at 2810 Waubesa Avenue and give chase. One, which appears to be a Golden Doodle or Labradoodle or Snickerdoodle—one of those odd but highly popular breeds that purposely combines some largely decent yellow dog with a poodle—acts vicious, bares its teeth, growls, barks, and chases but has never actually attacked Jazz or me. So it probably won't. The other is a Yorkie, so that evokes little fear. But I am disgusted at having my run disrupted by these dogs, and it still freaks me out.

In years past I've been in several situations where I was running a dog, and it and/or I have been attacked and bitten by a free-roaming canine. Murray had his ear nearly ripped off by a Rottweiler in Sacramento, I have spent hundreds of dollars for multiple incidents in getting my dogs pieced back together, and I still bear dog bite scars on my leg. So when a loose dog comes at me and acts threatening, it's post-traumatic stress time. I freak.

Yesterday after going through the usual routine of trying to get away as fast as possible, I'd had enough. Jazz and I retraced our steps to the house from which these two dogs regularly spew forth, rang the doorbell, and a "gentleman" came to the door.

Me: Your dogs are running loose in the street. [I focused on staying calm and just stating the fact.]

Him: Oh, okay, I'll bring them in.

Me: This has happened too many times. I intend to call Animal Control. [Still calm, but somewhat surprised by his cavalier manner.]

[Pause]

Him: GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!!!

[I was stunned and just stood there on the porch.]

Him: YOU ARE ON MY PROPERTY.

[At this point he advanced, grabbed the bill of the baseball cap I was wearing, twisted it around to the side, and shoved it down on my head.]

Him: GET THE FUCK OFF MY PROPERTY!!!

[I turned around to leave and started walking down the steps. He followed.]

Him: EVERYONE'S SICK OF YOUR BITCHING! YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING!!!

Me: Your dogs have chased me a number of times, but this is the first time I've complained to you or anyone else.

Him: WELL, SOMEONE'S ALWAYS COMPLAINING ABOUT SOMETHING. WE DON'T LIVE IN THE MIDDLE OF FUCKING MADISON!

[I kept walking and didn't engage. He kept following me as I turned to go back home.]

Him: YOU ACT LIKE WE LIVE IN DOWNTOWN MADISON!!! WE DON'T LIVE IN THE MIDDLE OF FUCKING DOWNTOWN MADISON!

I didn't respond, but it wasn't because I was unaware that I wasn't in the middle of downtown Madison. I was thinking "Yeah, but that doesn't mean animal control laws don't apply just because we're south of the Belt Line, and it's not like the housing density is any less, and we ARE still at a Madison address." Despite my thoughts, I had good reason to believe the guy had dropped a mental crankshaft, and there was no point in sharing my perspective. He didn't seem like someone really interested in someone else's counterpoint anyway.

By this time his Yorkie was running along with Jazz and me, and I didn't blame it. I wanted to get away from him too. From behind me, I would hear him bleat the occasional "Alvin!", assumedly at the Yorkie, which ultimately went about a quarter of a mile with us. At that point Mr. Teach You a Lesson By Jamming Your Baseball Cap Down the Side of Your Head finally started chasing his dog down rather than following behind me, and the Yorkie ran from him. It led a good chase, ran in circles causing him to run in circles after it. It was quite the spectacle and seemed fitting considering his implied contention that his dogs should be able to go wherever they damned well pleased.

Even though it was taking on sitcom proportions, I was still shaken and felt frightened of anyone exhibiting his type of threatening behavior, so I just kept going, kept my eyes straight ahead, and did not comment. But I did a LOT of internal belly-laughing. I passed his little circus with the Yorkie, and felt safe when I got home.

When I told Scott about the incident, his immediate response was, "Let's go pay him a visit." Oh great. No, let's not. We've had enough testosterone demonstrations for one morning.

This morning I researched the address and discovered that it's the home of a woman who, it would appear, is a triathlete and the race director for the Wisconsin Triathlon Series, which includes Lake Mills, Pardeeville, and Devil's Challenge. (Et tu, fellow triathlete?) I researched some more and under the Dean Health Care website found a picture of her husband and apparent co-resident at 2810 Waubesa Ave, and verified that he is the same person who expressed certainty that we don't live in downtown Madison, felt the need to re-organize my baseball cap, and followed me part way home—AND as a bonus, he is an orthopedic surgeon. My, my, what professionalism. I do not want his scalpel nor carpentry tools nor any part of his person anywhere near me.

I called Dane County Animal Control and left a full report this morning, and also asked them to call and educate me if I'm mistaken about animal containment laws applying on Waubesa Avenue.

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Monday, March 30, 2009

Cultural Differences Between Florida and Wisconsin

We just came back from a week in Bradenton. Some of the differences I noticed from our homeland:

1) Scott and I brought the median age down.

2) I could get in & out of women's public toilets while Scott was still standing in line for the men's.

3) There wasn't a single report of stolen snow removal equipment.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Follow Up

Today I interviewed an applicant who wrapped up by asking if it would help my hiring decision if his former boss, a poobah in The Universe as We Know It, called my boss.

Yes, it would. Just not in the direction he would hope.